Your guide to enjoying sex and not worry about unwanted pregnancy and STDs!
What is safe sex?
Getting sexually aroused when you see someone attractive is a normal chemical reaction in your body. We live in a free country. We can have multiple sex partners at the same time and hook up with a different person every night, or you just want to have sex with your current stable other half. All these are personal choices. But you should never underestimate the importance of practicing safe sex when you’re out having a wild night.
“I’m on the pills so I won’t get pregnant.” Most people think practicing safe sex is only to avoid getting pregnant. They’ve neglected the chance of getting STDs through sexual intercourse. You can’t possibly just look at someone and say, “he is definitely STD-free.” A lot of STDs are passed through sexual intercourses. Condoms effectively (still not 100%, nothing is 100% safe) shield you from unwanted pregnancies and STDs/STIs. Practice safe sex by always wearing a condom when you don’t have a stable sexual partner that you know is 100% clean.
Ways to practice safe sex
1. Male condom
Condoms can prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDs up to 98%. It’s one of the easiest ways to practise safe sex as you only need to put it on the penis every time before sex. There’re a lot of different brands out there with many cool styles, ripped, flavored, ultra-thin etc to suit your personal needs and desires.
2. Female condom
Yes, you read it right. Condoms aren’t exclusive to men. There are condoms made for women too. Worn internally by a female partner to create a physical barrier to prevent exposure to semen and other body fluids. It achieves the same result as male condoms to prevent unwanted pregnancies an STIs.
3. Contraceptive pills
By controlling your hormones, contraceptive pills are very effective in preventing pregnancies. However, they do not provide protection against STDs/STIs. Contraceptive pills are a very popular choice for girls with a heavy period flow as it alleviates it.
4. Birth control implants
There’re copper and hormonal ones that are put against the walls of your uterus and implants on your arm. They work differently, but just as effective in preventing pregnancies. Its effective rates are up to 99.8%. Once in place, they can work up to 5-10 years, depending on the type you get. It’s really good for people that will easily forget to take their pill once a day. Once it’s there, you don’t have to think about it for years. You only have to check to see if it’s in place every once in a while.
For the copper and hormonal ones, there’s a little string attached to the devices, so you can put your finger inside your vagina and see if the string is still there or if it’s suspiciously low or high. Birth control implants have grown popularity a lot over the past decade for its high effectiveness and easiness in using. However, birth control implants don’t shield you against STIs/STDs.
Wrong ‘safe’ sex myths debunked
1. Pull-outs are just as effective, as long as I can pull out before ejaculation
WRONG. The pull out method is only 70% effective, which is a lot lower than all the contraceptive methods we’ve mentioned above. Pull-outs can’t effectively prevent pregnancies because most guys won’t be able to pull out at the exact moment of ejaculation. Pre-cum will also cause pregnancies as there’s active semen in it.
2. Pre-cum doesn’t contain any active semen that will cause pregnancies
WRONG. Pre-cum may contain active semen from the last ejaculation if you have sex again immediately after the last ejaculation. Even if you’ve peed in between, it won’t completely kill all the active semen, that’s how pre-cum can also cause pregnancies.
3. I’ve calculated my safe period, I can’t get pregnant right now
There’s never such a thing as safe periods. Everyone has a different period cycle and the so-called safe period calculation may not be correct, especially for most girls, their cycle isn’t exactly predictable. You may not have a 28-day cycle this month, but rather, you have a 40-day cycle this month, then you will be wrong about your safe period and might get pregnant if you don’t use any protection. Everyone can have a fluctuating cycle. Don’t believe in calculating your safe period, if you really want to avoid getting pregnant.
4. I’m on my period right now, so I must be safe
WRONG. For girls with a really unstable period cycle, there’s a chance that your womb would release another egg while you’re menstruating. Again, most girls have an unstable period cycle, so don’t trust it even if you’re on your period.
5. It must be rude to ask my partner to get it checked so I know if we’re both clean
On the contrary, getting checkups with your partner together is a sign of trust. You both want to take this relationship to the next level and you’re willing to stay faithful to each other. You want to get it checked so you know both of you are clean and you may stop using condoms from now on and pick up another contraceptive method.
6. Guys are supposed to be the one that brings the condoms
No, girls. You must learn how to protect yourself as well, especially after knowing there’re condoms for girls too. Don’t allow yourself to be exposed to any risks. Always prepare condoms as well if you intend to have sex with someone, just so they won’t have any excuse of not getting one.
With sex education being promoted throughout the whole country, many still seem to lack the sense of how to practice safe sex. It’s an important topic that benefits you personally. Safe sex isn’t just about not getting pregnant. It’s also about not getting sick from your partners. Sex doesn’t have to be scary if you know how to do it right and safe. You just need to always keep it in mind and know how to protect yourself!