Know when you’re the only one thinking they are the “one”
Matches are made in heaven but they certainly are destined to meet on Earth. Social gatherings, mutual friends, workplace or even some online dating app… all have actively replaced Cupid in bringing two people closer to each other. What hurts more than a break-up or “no relationship” is actually the curse of one-sided love. When you love them with all your heart and they do not reciprocate even half of it. Here are top telltale signs you should be looking out for to know when you’re in a one-sided relationship.
1. You’re always the one who’s making plans
Going out on a beautiful blind date or simply going out for movies; whatever you do with your significant other can be fun quality time. From celebrating each other’s birthdays and valentine’s day to making every day worth remembering – it’s all beautiful when you’re in a relationship.
Having someone special to share your time and space with you is always such a warm feeling. However, be on the look-out for when you’re the only one who’s always making plans. When you’re the only one who has been investing time and money in making every day memorable, it’s quite likely that you’re trapped in a one-sided relationship.
2. They do not seem much interested in your life
Sharing a relationship with each other is better than having a best buddy with whom you can share everything! Seeking financial advice to making completely life-altering decisions in your career… you share every tiny detail with them. However, you might be in a one-sided relationship if you notice that they do not really ask you about those things? They are only partially listening and seem to never pay attention to what you have to say.
3. Your time together is always tainted with some argument or disagreement
If you’ve been feeling that whenever you both spend time together, there is always one thing or another that you both end up arguing about… I have bad news for you. It’s not about the little arguments that are an integral part of any interaction. It’s about constantly disagreeing with each other. If your partner does not share the same thoughts and views as you, there will be a time sooner or later where you will realize that even having a civil discussion is impossible with them. So you will start suppressing your ideas and start avoiding similar situations that will end up in a nasty argument.
A healthy relationship that thrives on mutual love and understanding has constructive criticism and positive feedback in the heart of it, but it is always wrapped in love and concern. In a one-sided relationship though, they do not cater to your needs and surely do not care how you feel, so even after a bad argument they won’t necessarily apologize to you or mend their ways.
4. You keep justifying their behavior
They sleep right after having hot steamy sex… they must be exhausted. They were not the first one to wish you on your birthday… they were probably busy in that new project at work. They haven’t returned your calls… they might have been distracted by some problem at home. Whatever they do, you keep on justifying their behavior! You’re always making up excuses for them. No matter what they do, your blind love is always one to dictate that they are ideal for you. Your immense love and concern for them always make you believe the lies they tell or excuses they might have on the tip of their tongue.
Being completely in awe of them, you never even consider if they are ignoring you on purpose. It’s important to understand if you share the same status in their life as they do in yours. A telltale sign is to notice how they treat you in front of friends and family. If they have kept you almost like a dirty little secret and would not take you on family events, run as fast as you can honey, ’cause this relationship ain’t going anywhere!
5. Deep down you just feel lonely
Long-term relationships should be comforting and soothing. They are like a soft plush pillow that you can rely on for comfort and relief. A one-sided relationship, where you’re the only one giving your 100% will drain you of your energy. The feeling of loneliness never seems to go away and will truly start messing up with your peace of mind if you stay in such a toxic relationship for long.
6. You feel like you’re being used but shrug it often
What most people do when they are in such a one-sided relationship is to surround themselves with delusion. They makeup castles in the air and start living in their own world. So even when you might be feeling that you’re the only one giving it your all… and your partner is doing the absolute bare minimum; you ignore it. You ignore all the red flags and do not think much of them. Look out for this feeling of disgust and helplessness when you feel like a punching bag who is just being used and do not continue ignoring it like a fool in love.
Love is one of the most beautiful if not THE most beautiful feeling in the world. The butterflies in the pit of your stomach, the silly feeling of always being in awe of them. Very few things upset you and almost anything will cheer you up. It’s almost like an emotional high that is engulfing you with each passing moment.
Equally hurtful and destructive is the toxicity of a one-sided relationship. It’s important to be able to pinpoint when you’re in that situation and get out of it as soon as possible because not only will the relationship leave you drained, it may leave you with a scarred impression of love. Love fearlessly but just make sure the other person isn’t in it just for time-pass.